Why "Better Deaths"?

Although death is both natural and universal, the end of life is something we tend to fear and avoid discussing. Because of this avoidance, the experiences of death and dying often bring tremendous shock and suffering, which can intensify and prolong grief. The trauma of this pain leads to further avoidance and existential anxiety, and the cycle continues. But it does not need to be this way.


We and our loved ones deserve Better Deaths.


By discussing and planning for death, we honor life by identifying ways to best take care of ourselves and our loved ones. Providing a way for loved ones to know how to best care for us helps prevent and alleviate suffering by ensuring that our last days are as we would like them to be.


Planning for the end of life is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself and your loved ones: it is an act of love.

Sites & People We Like:


A Portland-based collective providing trauma-informed and gender-inclusive end of life doula services focused on death planning and care.